Taming The Monsters: Helping Children Deal With Their Fears

Fear is a normal phenomenon in the childhood .What seems harmless to adults is scary for the children. With understanding, patience, and reassurance you can help your child deal with her fears.

Fear factor varies according to the age of the child:

Babies (8 to 12 months old)

• Babies start knowing the difference between what they know and what they don’t know. When the known face leaves the room they tend to have separation anxiety . Strangers may cause your baby distress on and off throughout her first two years.

•Older babies are often frightened by everyday situations that didn’t bother them when they were younger. They may become of afraid of people they don’t know or new situations.

Toddlers and preschoolers (2 to 4 years old)

•Young children have vivid imaginations. They may find it hard to understand the difference between reality and fantasy.

•By age 3 years, your child should be able to separate from you with little clinging or crying, and even the most fearful 3-year-old should adapt to a new situation within a few weeks. If not, mention it to her doctor.

•A toddler will conjure up imaginary dangers out of shadows in a dark room or a mask covering a familiar face. Everyday situations may frighten him, such as bedtime, or going to the doctor. He may fear things that make a loud noise he can’t understand, like a vacuum cleaner or flushing toilet. To an adult, toddlers’ fears may be rational or irrational. Either way, it’s important to take your child’s fears seriously. Never make fun of her for being afraid.

•At this age, children are concrete thinkers (they believe what you say in a literal way). They can become frightened by remarks or jokes from adults. Be mindful what you say in front of your child.

•Your child may have nightmares that wake him. If this happens, he’ll need your reassurance that the things he saw in his dream are not real. Talk to him and stay close until he falls asleep.

•Night terrors are not the same as nightmares. Children who experience a night terror may wake up screaming and thrashing, but they are only partially awake and won’t necessarily be aware of your presence. They will not respond to you, and will usually fall back asleep without completely waking up. They won’t remember it the next day.

School-aged children (5 years and up)

•Fears at this age tend to be more reality-based, such as storms, fires or injury. But the fear may be out of proportion to the likelihood of anything bad happening. As children learn more and begin to better understand what is really a danger and what is not, these fears generally go away.

•Older children often worry about their parents’ marriage or health, and can easily exaggerate mild arguments or complaints that they hear. It’s best to have these kind of conversations in private, away from your children.

•Being exposed to media can also cause fear in young children. Images from movies, video games, music videos, Internet websites, and even television news stories can be scary.

•Older children may express their fears in ways other than crying. They may bite their nails, tremble, or suck their thumb, or “act out”. They won’t necessarily tell you they are afraid, so watch for signs.

What parents can do ?

•Never force your child to confront a fear before she’s ready. Introduce her to a fearful situations in a slow, careful manner. Be sure to give lots of praise when she does something she used to be afraid of.

•Always ask your child questions so you understand the situation and can be sure your child is safe.

•Respect that the fear is real for your child. Don’t belittle your child or make fun of him.

•Anticipate things that might be scary to your child and help her prepare. For example, let her know when you’ll be visiting a home with a big dog, or let her know when you’ll be leaving to go out.

•You can help your child work through fears by reading books, making up stories, or acting out situations that deal with his fear. Drawing a monster can help him express his fears and learn to understand that they aren’t real.

•Try to desensitize your child to the fearful object or situation. Using a toy fire engine may help to reduce the fear of the real one.

•Help your child feel physically secure by hugging her, holding her hand, and being close. You can also teach her to take long, deep breaths to reduce her anxiety.

•Encourage your child to share her fears with a doll or stuffed animal.

•Try not to reinforce the fear by being scared yourself. Any sign that you may be worried about a situation can send a fearful child into a panic.

•Limit your child’s exposure to media that may create fears or make them even worse including TV, movies, video games, Internet, and even printed materials. You can also help teach children good media habits, which will help them know the difference between what’s real and what’s not.

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